31606081_sGenesis 31:49, 51-52 But it was also called Mizpah which means “watchtower”, for Laban said, “May the Lord keep watch between us to make sure that we keep this covenant when we are out of each other’s sight. “See this pile of stones,” Laban continued, “and see this monument I have set between us. They stand between us as witnesses of our vows. I will never pass this pile of stones to harm you, and you must never pass these stones or this monument to harm me.

Everybody needs healthy boundaries. Boundaries help us to recognize what we are responsible for and what somebody else is responsible for. Where we get messed up or messy is when we interfere with someone else’s territory.

Jacob had left his crooked Father-in-law after working for him twenty years. The man changed his wages ten times!! God told Jacob to go back home with his wife and children. It was time to separate his business from Laban’s business.

Laban didn’t want Jacob to leave because he knew he was losing someone that had made him successful. But when abuse a relationship you ought not be surprised when they leave.

Jacob left. Laban followed. But God told Laban in a dream not to say anything good or bad to Jacob. In other words, “let him go!” Before Laban let Jacob leave to start a life separate from him they set up a witness heap. They took a pile of stones and put oil on them as a reminder that this would be a boundary marker.

  1. If you are going to pursue the life God has for you then you must separate yourself from dysfunctional family and friends. You need a boundary marker to know what’s your business and what’s my business. You stay on your side and I’ll stay on my side.
  2. May the Lord watch between you and me while we are absent from one another. We used to say this at benediction in my little country church not knowing it was a charge of mistrust. Jacob and Laban didn’t trust one another so they asked God to watch between them to keep each other honest. Ask God to watch over your affairs to keep people on both sides honest and expose them when they are not.
  3. I will not come on your side and you will not come on my side. To have a healthy relationship you have to distinguish a boundary where you know when people have crossed the line. What goes on in your family is longer any concern for your family of origin. For this reason a man shall leave his mother and father and cleave to his wife and they shall become ONE!

It’s time to set up a Witness heap between you and your family of origin. You don’t stop loving them you just create healthy boundaries so they know what they are responsible for and you know what you are responsible for and that will free you up to be healthier this year!

Dear God,

Help me to set up healthy boundaries in all my relationships. If I’m going to make it to my destiny I’ve got to set up some witness heaps. I can’t prosper getting caught up in other people’s business or them messing in mine. Give me healthy relationships this year!

In Jesus Name,

Amen