“So Jonathan made a covenant with the house of David, saying, “May the Lord call David’s enemies to account.” And Jonathan had David reaffirm his oath out of love for him, because he loved him as he loved himself.” 1 Samuel 20:16-17 NIV


There’s nothing like being in relationship with people who really have your best interest in mind. These people will not entertain foolishness or negative talk as it pertains to you. Anything that is detrimental to your well-being people in covenant relationship with you will come directly to you in a timely manner to give you a heads up.

David and Jonathan had a three-dimensional relationship. They loved each other and had a mutual respect for one another. They were inseparable. They loved each other more than themselves!

What made this relationship even more extraordinary was that Jonathan was the son of King Saul who was trying to kill David out of jealousy. Jonathan didn’t want to believe that his own father wanted to harm his best friend but David had to get Jonathan to look closer.

When Jonathan went back home for the new moon feast at the King’s table, Saul asked Jonathan where David was. Jonathan covered for him and said he went home to Bethlehem to visit his family.

King Saul was furious! He tried to kill his own son Jonathan on the spot by throwing a spear at him in the banquet hall. Jonathan got up and left furious and ashamed of his father’s actions.

The next morning he went out to tell David to run away forever. They made a covenant to always watch out for each other’s family and wept before saying goodbye.

What an amazing friendship. What can we learn from these two covenant friends as it relates to watching someone’s back?

  1. Only bond with people who share the same values and have the same spiritual make up as you. Jonathan and David were both warriors and fearless. They both had great faith willing to go against the odds. David fought Goliath single-handedly as the other soldiers watched in fear. Jonathan fought 500 Philistines with his armor bearer while his soldiers hid in fear and fatigue. David and Jonathan were the same person. Don’t be unequally yoked with people that don’t share your DNA.
  2. The relationship should have reciprocity. When David defeated Goliath Jonathan “fell in love” with David’s character. That day he gave David his weapon and even his robe. David gave his loyalty and service to Jonathan’s dad. If you’re in a one-sided relationship that’s not a true covenant relationship.
  3. They made a covenant. They had an agreement that when David became king that he would watch out for Jonathan’s family. Here’s the crazy part. Jonathan would have secured his position as the next king if David was dead! David had been anointed to take king Saul’s place and Jonathan’s place.. But what mattered more was the anointing Jonathan saw on his friends life. It was so important he protected David over his own legacy.

Greater love has no man than he who would lay down his life for a friend. With this definition you have to stop and take inventory of your relationships and ask yourself, “Who really has my back and whose back do I really have?” Are you stuck in quid pro quo relationships or are you in relationships that unconditionally have you covered?


Dear God,

Help me to make the right choices in my relationships. I don’t need a bunch of friends, just a few covenant friendships that are three-dimensional. I just need a few people that can love me heart, mind and soul. Let me be the kind of friend that I would want to have watching my back.  Thank you Jesus for being that friend that sticks closer than any brother or sister.

In Jesus’ Name,
Amen