“Don’t have anything to do with foolish and stupid arguments, because you know they produce quarrels. And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful.”

2 Timothy 2:23-24 NIVUK


Former First Lady Michelle Obama gave a memorable speech at the Democratic Convention. In that speech she gave a remedy for hateful and racist rhetoric that attacked her husband’s faith or citizenship for eight years. She said, “When they go low we go high.” In other words, we don’t stoop to the level of critics who carry on with hateful, petty antics trying to attack our character.

There’s a proverb that states, “When a wise person and a fool are arguing from a distance no one can tell the difference between the two.” We have to make the distinction by not stooping to their level.

  1. Don’t have anything to do with foolish quarrels and arguments. When you are a leader there are just some things you have to absorb and not respond to every sidewalk critic. It takes two people to have an argument. Jesus was right; we shouldn’t cast our pearls amongst swine. Never argue with someone with a religious spirit. There’s too many people who need the good news of the Gospel for me to be sidetracked arguing with people on how I help reach those who haven’t heard the good news. We miss the message arguing over the methods.
  2. The Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome. If you run into someone that likes to debate and argue all the time it could be they are in love with their own thoughts. Some people, in the name of being “woke” like to argue for the sake of arguing. When communication comes from God it is a conversation not an argument. Love seeks to understand before it is understood.
  3. A servant of God must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful.  If a leader can’t do these three things they are not sent by God. The evidence that someone has the fruit of the Spirit is that they are kind. You are not a cyber bully and you don’t use your platform to be mean. You want to enlighten people to God’s truth. You don’t hold on to resentment. When you are not able to get past an offense your heart grows cold and you’re unable to help people go high because you have settled for low thinking. 

Dear God,

Help us to continue to take higher ground. There is too much pettiness circulating amongst believers. It’s hard to distinguish believers from non-believers because we spend too much time tearing people down instead of lifting each other up. Father, today I choose higher ground in terms of how I respond to any person and any situation. When they go low today I’m going high.

In Jesus’ Name,

Amen