Galatians 2:11-12 But when Peter came to Antioch, I had to oppose him to his face, for what he did was very wrong. When he first arrived, he ate with the Gentile believers, who were not circumcised. But afterward, when some friends of James came, Peter wouldn’t eat with the Gentiles anymore. He was afraid of criticism from these people who insisted on the necessity of circumcision.

Chris Brown exploded on Tamar Braxton and Adrienne Bailon for something he heard she said about his relationship with his girlfriend Kerruche. What’s interesting is that on the talk show Tamar was actually complimentary of Chris Brown. Instead of talking to Tamar Face-to-Face Chris took to social media and verbally assaulted both women.

Unfortunately Chris Brown is not the only person that has taken to social media to solve disputes or to further exasperate a dispute that could have been solved face-to-face. As Christians we are supposed to live by Jesus’ instructions I Matthew 18:15 “if you have something against your brother or sister go to them one on one.” We have lost the ability to resolve conflict one on one. We now have resorted to publicly calling people out on Twitter or Facebook when what we need is some FaceTime.

Paul said he confronted Peter to his face when he acted different towards the Gentiles when his Jewish friends came around. Peter changed his view on circumcision because of peer pressure from the Jews. It’s amazing how we can flip the script when we have an audience. Paul recognized the hypocrisy and inconsistency in Peter who was his mentor. He had some FaceTime and told him that he was wrong.

 

If you have a disagreement with a friend or colleague you should

  1. Choose FaceTime over airing your grievance over Facebook. Nobody else needs to know what “beef” you have when its more productive to show what “belief” you have. They will know we are Christians by how we behave on social media.
  1. Seek to understand before you are understood. A lot of times we take to social media to vent before we even have an understanding of the other persons position. Paul and Peter had to come to an understanding on circumcision or else it could cause a rip in the unity of early Christians.
  1. The confrontation should lead to education then reconciliation. The bible says, “Come let us reason together.” If we are going to “confront” each other in the presence of all be sure that your conversation is civil and is done so to establish communication and not condemnation. Don’t tear each other down but rather build each other up.

 

Dear God,

Help me to use by ability to communicate face to face rather then venting on social media. Help me to be about the business of reconciliation and not retaliation. Give me the ability to forgive when I’m offended and the ability to listen when I’m the offender. Teach me how to communicate in a loving way and not a messy way.

In Jesus Name I pray,

Amen