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1 Samuel 20:14-17 And may you treat me with the faithful love of the Lord as long as I live. But if I die, treat my family with this faithful love, even when the Lord destroys all your enemies from the face of the earth.” So Jonathan made a solemn pact with David, saying, “May the Lord destroy all your enemies!” And Jonathan made David reaffirm his vow of friendship again, for Jonathan loved David as he loved himself.

It’s so hard to find real friends these days. It seems that all relationships these days come with expiration dates that are invisible. You don’t know they’ve expired until something “just ain’t right” anymore.

When you’re young friendship is based on a pureness. When you’re older friendship is based on a mutual benefit. When you are a Christian it’s based on a heart and soul connection.

David and Jonathan mutually admired and loved each other the first time they met. It was after David single handedly killed Goliath the giant. Jonathan admired his courage. They became inseparable. The only problem was that Jonathan’s dad, Saul had a jealous eye on David. Saul wanted David.

What test many relationships are that somebody else can’t stand the fact that y’all are close. If friendships are going to last we are going to have to learn something from David and Jonathan.

  1. Treat each other with faithful love just like God is faithful to us. God’s covenant love is unconditional not contractual. Real friends don’t abandon you based on conditions. Real friends see you as God sees you regardless of other people’s opinion. They really see your heart and from that they cannot depart.
  2. Love me so that I will not die. Jonathan warned David that his father was going to kill him. This potentially meant that David would become King in place of Saul and Jonathan. Real friends protect your life even if it means you advance beyond them. Real friends don’t let other people assassinate your character when you’re not around to defend yourself.
  3. If I die show the same love to my children. Real friendship extends beyond death. You have an extended family through your friendship. If anything happens you are there for their family.
  4. Reaffirm your covenant with those that you love as you love yourself. Don’t take strong friendships for granted. Be intentional on strengthening solid relationships of those that you love as yourself. Make a covenant with people who love you unconditionally. Let go of friendships that have expired.

Dear God,

Show me who my real friends are. Take me out of expired relationships. Strengthen the real ones that remain. I can’t spend another day proving myself to people who can’t see me as you see me. Thank you for the few solid relationships that I can count on. Most of all I thank you for the one that sticks closer than any brother. Very seldom will someone lay down their life for a friend but Jesus demonstrated his love for us in that he laid down his life for us while we were yet sinners. Help me to be that friend that I see in Jesus.